This card is all about the different connotations of lying. Lying to others, yourself, being “less than completely honest”, manipulating the situation, lying by omission, and generally being tricksy just to name a few ways we can be untruthful. Now, it’s true that sometimes, we simply must lie or bend the truth for ethical reasons. Doctors will tell loved ones the patient died without suffering when he knows damned well the patient fought and suffered until the end. You’ll tell your partner it was “good” for you, too, just to help them feel a little better about themselves and so you can roll over and go to sleep. The coach tells the worst kid on the team that he can see “improvement” to give the kid a boost in self esteem.
My point today is to really examine your motivations behind your untruths. Are you saving someone’s feelings? Are you motivated by compassion and sympathy? Or are you lying to save your own skin or ego, to weasel out of something you don’t have the balls to straightforwardly say you don’t wanna do, or to get something you want at the expense of another?
If you’re lying to yourself about something, stop. Face your truth: you actually LIKE to smoke, you’re just too lazy to exercise, and you hate smoothies/love bacon. Do you have to do anything about the things you lie to yourself about? No. But if you have to lie to yourself to shut something up, then there’s a deeper urge that’s saying maybe you should do something about that. Food for thought.
Happy May all!