This card is all about the different connotations of lying. Lying to others, yourself, being “less than completely honest”, manipulating the situation, lying by omission, and generally being tricksy just to name a few ways we can be untruthful. Now, it’s true that sometimes, we simply must lie or bend the truth for ethical reasons. Doctors will tell loved ones the patient died without suffering when he knows damned well the patient fought and suffered until the end. You’ll tell your partner it was “good” for you, too, just to help them feel a little better about themselves and so you can roll over and go to sleep. The coach tells the worst kid on the team that he can see “improvement” to give the kid a boost in self esteem.
My point today is to really examine your motivations behind your untruths. Are you saving someone’s feelings? Are you motivated by compassion and sympathy? Or are you lying to save your own skin or ego, to weasel out of something you don’t have the balls to straightforwardly say you don’t wanna do, or to get something you want at the expense of another?
If you’re lying to yourself about something, stop. Face your truth: you actually LIKE to smoke, you’re just too lazy to exercise, and you hate smoothies/love bacon. Do you have to do anything about the things you lie to yourself about? No. But if you have to lie to yourself to shut something up, then there’s a deeper urge that’s saying maybe you should do something about that. Food for thought.
Happy May all!
With your help, I would like to start a new feature in the monthly newsletters. I’m thinking it should be a sort of a “Dear Abby” style of Q & A on the subject of energy work, energetic practices, Reiki and the like.
Often non-energy workers, energy workers and Reiki facilitators alike ask me different questions. They range anywhere from what is energy work to how does Reiki work. Reiki facilitators often ask about various experiences they’ve had or wonder what to do next.
To begin, I’ll address a question that comes up quite often. How do I ground?
Life can be messy. Life can be chaotic. Life can be busy. Life can be… well, you get the idea. And I sure don’t have to tell you how complicated life can be. Goodness knows we’ve all had our share of ups and down.
Just living life and getting through the rough patches, and sometimes even the smooth patches, can become stressful and can leave us feeling ungrounded and stressed out.
I thought I’d share a little bit of what I’ve been dealing with recently. A few weeks ago my father had hip replacement surgery. For most people, this is not too big of an issue. However, my father is 80, diabetic and a smoker. These are things that set off warning alarms for surgeons and anesthesiologists. But to keep this brief, suffice to say the surgery was “concerning”.
The surgery went very well and without a hitch. Recovery also has been perfect. The problem has been his rehabilitation to strengthen his new hip and the leg. First, he vehemently refused to go to a rehab facility. Getting him to understand the importance of going and finally to agree to it was a battle. One in rehab, he will only exercise during the therapy sessions, not when he’s relaxing in his room… as advised. His attitude: why should I do it again, I’ve already done it.
Dad’s now been in rehab for just over a week. The other day we had a meeting with the head of the therapy department and he advised that, because of the slow rehabilitation of the hip and leg, my dad stay in the center for another two weeks. He explained that if the joint and leg aren’t properly rehabbed and strengthened, he may not be able to walk well. My father became irate and absolutely refused, but after some coaxing, did agree to finish out the current week.
I worry that my dad won’t be able to be independent for long. I worry that he may be in pain. I worry that he may fall. I worry, period. And I become ungrounded and very stressed out.
So how do I ground and center? I’d like to say that it’s very easy… and technically it is. The tough part is just allowing it to come. But here are a few things that I like to do to ground and center myself.
Weather permitting, each day I like to take a walk in the yard. Enjoy the beauty of all the flowers and blooming trees. Experience the fragrances of all the blooms. Feel the cool, soothing breeze on my skin and through my hair.
I enjoy taking time to play with my dog. Not to think about anything beyond the fun and silliness of the games we play; tug-of-war, fetch, etc… I also like to focus not just on the moment, but on the amazing beauty of the communication between man and animal.
I like to give myself Reiki. It doesn’t have to be a long session, though that’s nice. Sometimes I’ll just sit down and close my eyes and ask the Universe and my spirit guides to blanket me with the loving energy of the Universe. Take a few deep breaths. It’s surprisingly energizing.
Take the time to water each of my plants, individually. By that I mean to look at each plant, examine the leaves and be aware of the changes, the growth, the color. Be in the moment with each of my plants. Are there new shoots? Does it need to be repotted yet? I also like to touch the leaves and feel their textures.
Sometimes I’ll steal a few minutes away and do something just for me, like read a few pages in a book or listen to some of my favorite music.
These are all things that help me to ground. They’re easy to do. Again, the trick is to stop your mind from going places it doesn’t need to be or to stop focusing on things I cannot do anything about right then. Just focus on the moment. Focus on the activity. Reconnect with the planet, with the minutiae of life.
Give it a try some time. It’s very relaxing and helps you get back to center.
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It was a dark and stormy night when I found Dart lying huddled in the rain next to my driveway. The headlights from the car illuminating a skinny, wet dog with big brown eyes and floppy ears. I did not want a dog, but I dried him off and gave him some fresh water and a place to sleep on the porch resolving to find his owners in the morning.
He was full grown when his showed up with a blue collar and no tags. I started asking the neighbors and my dog loving mail carrier, Mary, checked her whole route, trying to find his owners. When I would tell him, “Go home!” he would just look at me. After a few days of him living on my porch, not inside because I did not want (and could not afford) a dog, Mary said, “I think you have a dog, you should get him to a vet.”
He wasn’t very well trained at first, but he learned fast, except he kept peeing on the potted tree in my bedroom. So one day I hid in the closet so I could jump out and catch him in the act. He never peed in the house again.
I quickly came to believe Dart was sent to me to be my protector, maybe my familiar, but he was definitely a faerie dog. The strange spirits that would float through the neighborhood dispersed when he was around, nervous clients quickly calmed and the groundhogs stayed out of the garden. He even helped a few friends who were afraid of dogs, especially big dogs, past their fears. It was rare for him to dislike someone, but I always listened when he did.
Over the last few years he started slowing down, but he could still disappear when he wanted to, and he still tried to patrol the boundaries of the yard. Around Christmas we started carrying him up and down the stairs as he grew weaker, unless he darted around us and got to the stairs first.
Monday morning he was gone. He was my first dog and the very best Dart in the world.
Interesting that this card should appear as spring blooms and Mother Earth works her magic to carry us into a new season of growth…. When the Six of Cups is upright, it brings us fond memories and soft nostalgia about our past. Reversed, we are given a more honest view of the past: those “good ol’ days” weren’t so golden after all. The so called Gilded Age had its own share of problems. Just ask your grandmother about washing clothes…or your great-grandmother.
If thinking about your childhood evokes “discomfort”, you may need a little assistance getting past some stuff that’s now getting in your way. This can mean a few sessions with a licensed therapist, but it can also mean taking swimming lessons if you’re afraid of the water, tennis lessons if you’re still mortified by your poor performance on the high school tennis team, etc. The point is to remove destructive unconscious thought patterns and replace them with new memories of success. Check to see if you’re still performing certain obligations out of habit, too, because those also fall into “destructive patterns.”
In a nutshell, this card is about facing forward with renewed trust in your future. Enjoy!
Happy April, all!